Weddings at Integricity!

It’s wedding celebrations at Integricity! Two of our ‘fanatics’ are getting married! We decided to catch up with them for some insiders on love, marriage and their wedding plans. Ladies and gentlemen, here’s Terence and TJ for you: Ok guys, you’re about to embark on the journey of your lifetime, what are some things you’d figure you would need to “sacrificeâ€? right after being married?

Terence: I would say my own personal space. Indeed, after getting married, there would be a lot of giving and taking – but still, we as humans, would need time alone for reflection and self discovery. Sure, we would work things out. After all, it’s two becoming one.

TJ: Hmm, I’d say hanging out late with friends and clubbing.

Now, tell us, what’s your wedding theme?

Terence: We don’t have an exact theme, but while we were in the midst of planning, we were more incline towards the day being contemporary and classical. Colours would be lavender, green and cream.

TJ: No central theme, just casual, free and easy (it’s by the ‘beach’ mah). Colour theme for the venue is white and champagne.

We’ve heard a little about your escapade to Bangkok to get your perfect gown and suit. Tell us a bit more.

Terence: We had read on several occasions about couples going to Bangkok to get their gowns and suits. We did our research on the internet, and without thinking, we booked our flight tickets about 10 months before we took flight. We walked on several of Bangkok’s street and visited their bridal shops! There were the extremes of both worlds – from really ugly and mis-fits to the classic of classics and yes, EXPENSIVE! We settled for our perfect one, which was in between of both worlds. A really adventurous trip!

TJ: Fun! It wasn’t hard. We had a trip to Bangkok planned already, then we found out from Terence later that BKK was the place to find some affordable gowns and suits, so things kinda fell into place. Janice didn’t try many gowns on but we just knew for sure that the first one she tried on was the perfect one! We shopped around a bit a while after that but stuck with our first choice. Some insider stuff please…how did you meet your fiancé and what attracted her to you? Was it love at first sight?

Terence: Well, I knew Deborah since ages ago. We grew up together in church and were friends at first. Things carried on, some emotional roller coasters, she went overseas to study, I was active in sports and my travels… and only until three years ago, did we decide to enter the next level, of courtship. No, it was not love at first sight. We were very rough with each other in the earlier years and had our own share of our battle of the sexes.

TJ: It was a farewell lunch for a mutual ex-colleague. Janice was a new addition to the team and it just so happened that I sat next to her. We started talking after a while and although I don’t think it was love at first, I was definitely very attracted to her! We hit it off immediately because we both love football (both watching and playing the game). She was also very down to earth and friendly which was a big plus point. After lunch I contacted her immediately via e-mail and IM (instant messenger). One thing led to another and so here we are, 1 year and 8 months later, at the thresholds of marriage!

What would your definition of love be? Is it merely a feeling?

Terence: I would describe love to be more than just feelings. It’s part of physical attraction and emotions. But love goes beyond that. Commitment, trust, adjustments and conflict (plus resolutions) is part of the whole love equation.

TJ: Yes and no. It’s more than a feeling. Feelings are temporary, but love can last a lifetime! Love to us is a journey where decisions, tolerance, acceptance and compromise come to play. To all hopeless romantics – sorry to burst your bubbles, but love is more than just gifts, gestures and surprises!

Finally guys, what are some tips you would give your ‘single-going-to-get-married’ readers?

Terence: Don’t jump the boat. Pray, think, ponder and then only decide. This person will be the one that sees your dirty habits, sleeps next to you, sits next to you and one that you need to fight over the right TV channels! The wedding will just be a day, marriage is a lifetime… so enjoy the day, for it’s the start to a whole new journey!

TJ: Make sure you know your partner really, really well. It’s also very good to share common interests so that you can enjoy activities together. As you’re your wedding planning, don’t get too serious. After all, planning the Big Day is supposed to be fun! The wedding is a celebration of love that you both share – with each other as well as the people close to your hearts. Don’t let it just be a big show to entertain your guests!

Well, as staff of Integricity, their weddings cannot possibly be spared from the world wide web! Check out both their websites, as they have taken the pain and effort to journal down their journeys to the biggest day of their lives. Check Terence’s one out here and TJ’s here!